In The Waiting

Singe life. A time of waiting…. Wait for prince charming to sweep you off your feet and marry you so you can get on with your life. Yeah, not true.

How To Wait

While in the beautiful season of waiting you are to serve. This is something lots of believers do. Occupy yourself with Gods work. If you just sit at home your whole life and just expect someone to come up to your door step and marry you, you will never get married. How do you meet people? You have to go out and serve in the right places (where there are good God-fearing people) and not going expecting to find “the one” but going in expectation for God to do something great, to move you in some way, to help people… Your whole purpose in life is to do Gods will. To live for Him. Marriage is just a bonus and a chance to do it with someone else. But your relationship with God does not change when you get married. Your marriage you so long for and dream about every night is not everything you think it is. Marriage is hard work. It is selfless. You literally cannot live without that person. You are with them forever and there is no escaping. It is a blessing, I love being married! But guys, it is still nothing compared to my relationship with God. No amount of kissing, of laughter, of sex, of anything you are so longing for in marriage will amount to God. Seriously. You think i’m not serious? You’ll see when you’re married.

God Is Your Everything. 

He is what you strive for, what you live for. That WILL NOT CHANGE when you get married. So if you have a bad relationship with God now, you will also have that when you get married. All the struggles you have now with lust and sin, you will still have when you get married unless you deal with them before you get married. When you get into a courtship, all the fights and disagreements you have when you are in a relationship will still be there when you get married unless you get rid of it before hand. You see how it works? All these things will remain when you are married. If you think your life will radically change and become a fairy tale when you get married, you are day dreaming something completely unrealistic. God is your soul sufficiency, your reason for living. Without Him, you marriage will fail. So if you do not have a relationship with Him now and you depend on your husband/wife for your only route of happiness you will be run dry. Because God is your happiness and that will not change. He fills the void inside. When you feel so alone and just want someone to “cuddle”, to understand you, to make you feel beautiful, loved, God is crying for you and saying “I am here, I am holding you, I understand you, you are beautiful in my sight, you are loved because I sent my Son to die on the cross for your sins My darling.” Do you know how much He longs for you?


If you think you will find happiness in a boyfriend/girlfriend, you will be let down. Yes it is wonderful, and it is an adventure, but throughout it all, who is still there for you when you still feel alone? God is. Turn to Him and fix your eyes on the King of glory. Life isn’t all about waiting until you’re 16 so you can finally court, find a boy/girl, get married, and buy a house, have kids. It is about living for God. What happens when you get married and you fulfill everything you ever dreamed and you just sit there like… Okay… Now what? That happens because you just found out you just accomplished what you were waiting for and you do not know what else to do with yourself. But if you were living for God in the first place you would find that God has more for you than marriage. He has bigger plans beyond your plans. Plans that excel your expectations. Don’t always wait for “the next big thing”. LIVE FOR THE NOW.  We have a wonderful purpose in the Father. Such promises He has for us if only we can live it to the fullest instead of waiting. Waiting isn’t sitting down doing nothing and say, “Okay God move”. That is like sitting in your house for the rest of your life and waiting for prince charming to show up (Not likely). God doesn’t desire lazy people that feel entitled. Work in the waiting. Worship in the waiting, serve, smile, feel loved, be content. God is working in your life even when you feel the time is ticking before you surpass the “ideal age” for marriage. THERE IS NO IDEAL AGE. You will be married when God wants you to. Obey Him and trust Him. That is all you have to do. You have to work, and not just work, work hard for what you want. Gain some skills for yourself. One day when you are a husband/wife you should know how to do stuff.

Through It All

Through it all your eyes are on Him right? Just trust Him. He has that perfect someone for you or maybe He doesn’t. Either way you have to be at that place where you are okay with either way. Because either way, you life really doesn’t change much. You are still the same person with the same fire for God who longs to serve. Don’t wait, serve.

“Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.” Psalm 38:4

“But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh.” Galatians 5:16

“But they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint.” Isaiah 40:31

“The steps of a man are established by the Lord, when he delights in his way;” Psalm 37:23

“And without faith it is impossible to please him, for whoever would draw near to God must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who seek him.” Hebrews 11:6

“For he satisfies the longing soul, and the hungry soul he fills with good things.” Psalm 107:9

“Be still, and know that I am God. I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth!” Psalm 46:10

Olivia Mancini